The Fact Is…
There is no S on my chest. I can’t bend iron, make myself invisible or fly.
My only super power seems to be making my girlfriend’s feel un-needed.
I’ve heard it time & time again & I don’t understand.
The weird thing is that while I was writing this blog, I had music shuffling and this song from Jill Scott came on. I’d like to dedicate this to all the girls I made feel un-needed.
I can pay my own light bill, baby
Pump my own gas in my own car
I can buy my own shoe collection
I`ve been blessed thus far
I can kill the spider above my bed
Although it`s hard because I`m scared
I can even stain and polyurethane
But some things just don`t change
I need you
Sometimes so hard to say
I need you
Some things remain
I can buy my own groceries baby
Get my hair tight, my nails right
I can floss my own bling-bling
Write the the words to the songs I sing
I can even raise the child we`ll make
Make sure he`s loved and knows what God gave us
I can teach him how to walk and stand
But I need you to help him be a man
We need you
Some things don`t change
I could be congresswoman or a garbage woman
Or police officer or a carpenter
I could be a doctor and a lawyer
Or a mother and a
Good God, whatcha done to me
Kind of lover I can be
I could be a computer analyst
The queen with the nappy hair, raising her fist
Or I could be much more and a myraid of this
Hot as the summer
Sweet as the first kiss
And even though I can do all these things
I need you
That’s all I’ve been trying to say. Sigh.
well said sis…or well Jill lol
That’s unfortunate Alex, it really is. I think one of the greatest things about the woman I am dating now, is that we don’t need each other. It is a kind of freedom that I have never had before in any relationship. We both share fundamental expectations, but we stay far away from ‘need.’ Sadly, I have felt unneeded in past relationships, but that is because I gave up parts of myself to merge with someone else, and I am realizing that is a no-no. When I am able to be myself and do the things that I want and still have a real relationship with another person who is doing the same thing, there is no feeling to be needed.
The point is, you can’t make someone FEEL needed. They have to trust that you WANT them and that that is good enough.
I think I’ll write a blog about it.