She's Baaack!
I got a message on an old IM account from my first girlfriend asking me to email her. My first thought was, what does she want? My first thought was fuck her, but I emailed her anyway.
An email turned into, “Can we talk?” I sent her my phone number. She text me. I had to laugh at her text messages because she’s not known for being a very good writer. Her texts were worded so formally, as if she was trying to her best to show me that had some education behind her or something. I shook my head at the text, immediately recognizing that nothing much had changed with her. She had always been a person that was constantly out to impress other people by fronting instead of just being herself.
She asked to see me after she got back from being out of town on business. I said sure. I don’t really expect to see her, so it seems safe to agree. Then she tried to force herself on me this weekend. She asked twice after my original no. She says all she wants from me is friendship, but I don’t think friends are this pushy.
I told her a long time ago that she and I had absolutely nothing in common. I told her that we never should have been together. I told her we had no basis for a friendship. I feel like all of this is still true, but I can’t help but to wonder why she came back.
They always come back. They want to see if they still have it and often times its a matter of comfort and ego stroking that’s needed. If you see she hasn’t changed don’t treat her like she has. Just my opinion and my $.02.
She hasn’t changed. She seems to think she has though. I’m ignoring her texts now. No love!
I say don’t do it unless you want drama for awhile. My ex came back too. Said she wanted ‘closure’. Yet her definition of closure and mine were two different things. Her idea was to berate me and tell me how wrong I was for leaving her. I cut the whole thing off and told her, in no uncertain terms, that I was not going to continue that conversation. It was pointles. Believe it or not, she actually ended it with, “I hope this doesn’t hurt our ‘friendship’.” WTF? Sooo, only my 2 cents too but I would avoid the whole thing.
Definitely let it go! I am good friends with all of my exes but Jo, and the reason I’m not friends with her isn’t only because of all the lying fucked up shit she did behind my back, but because she has none of the qualifications I need in friendship, as opposed to all my other exes who were just missing my qualifications for lovers.
You’re back in the A starting fresh, so you have an opportunity to re-do it all just the way you like. Pups, I know sometimes you lack the motivation to cut things off, just ignore shit you hope will go away, but now’s your chance to take a pro-active stance and create the life you want.
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They ALWAYS come back, yo! LOL! She doesn’t want friendship. Friendships with old lovers happen organically. If she is being pushy, she is trying to rekindle. Nice.