Forgiveness-Burned Bridges
Death is probably the biggest reminder of how short our time on Earth is. At Mama’s ceremony, there were so many people there to mourn her passing…
I found it interesting to see her ex-husband and her last boyfriend consoling each other. Her ex-crackhead wasn’t present, but that’s another story.
Mama wasn’t a person that held grudges. She did learn from her mistakes though (even if it took her longer than the average person). She was the definition of hardheaded. Her biggest fault was the faith she put in others to do the right thing.
After watching them do the wrong thing, over and over again, she would remove herself from their life, not in a permanent way, but in a way that their wrong actions would not impact her life.
I can’t say for sure if she forgave those that hurt her (though I’m almost positive she did), but she did move past the hurt and wasn’t hindered by it.
She kept her bridges in tact.
I can’t count the number of bridges I’ve burned. I mean, I tossed gasoline and lit the match. I have destroyed “friendships” because I couldn’t figure out how to keep the bridge intact and move forward. It’s always been a defense mechanism. I would rather burn the bridge than be burned by the person. Burned bridges protect you from being hurt… Right?
I can’t say for sure, but I do know there are a lot of ashes in my view and it’s not a pleasant sight. Aren’t ashes good for plant growth? Let’s see if I can change the scenery…
I can totally relate to this.
Good point, yes, ashes promote growth….
Forgiveness is a difficult thing to do, but as I am getting older it is a necessary thing to do for the sake of sanity. When we screw up, we want people to understand and console us, but most of us have a hard time showing that same compassion, especially when we are the victims.
I am working on my own burnt bridges, but your mother’s method of walking is way is probably best.
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Buenas noches, Alix, So delightful to read this entry about your beloved and forgiving mother! You were so descriptive I felt as though I were there, vicariously. The part about her ex-husband and former boyfriends was so nicely etched, a painting well worth framing in gilded memories! Right now I am in route to Florida with my sisters—Miss Know It All and Miss Barber! I am looking forward to a pleasant trip, no sisterly altercations! Love ya, The Golden Goddess. P.s. The first entry is an error! Lo siento!
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“I would rather burn the bridge than be burned by the person. Burned bridges protect you from being hurt… Right?”
This could have come directly from my mouth. I’m working on the issue of forgiveness myself but I’m still a work in progress.
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