Am I to blame for their already broken situation?

Ok we all know the difference between right and wrong before I ever got the courage to casually flirt with my friend. I knew she was in a relationship and that they live together. I repeat I was respectful of their relationship. Well for some reason I believe my friend admitted that they were attracted to me. This is were the harrassment begings she would come into the store… casually pass by with friends and make snide remarks. Needless to say I became very alert whenever I knew she was in the store. Anyway as conversations, text and phone calls progressed. I believe she could tell that something was going on. To my knowledge she has not been told by my old friend.

However, this is irony of the situation we know both work for the same company in different departments. If there is a chance for her to brag or boast about what the girlfriend is doing or better do for her blah blah.

Lol, let’s just say earplugs are a godsend! Lately she is talking about leaving my friend to anyone who will listen. First let me say that there is no way in Hell would I tell my friend that information. Rule of thumb keep your mouth shut about what you see or hear concerning your friends partner. They will not believe you male or female! The female in question and I have a mutal acquaintance ( knew but do not know how close) I dont feel that she will tell or that she really cares. However, I was told not to mention them to this person. I understand and respect but this seems a bit of overreacting they were not told the details. I am a live and let live person. I am at a point to where this is the craziest rabbit hole that I could have walked in. ( 1) I want to continue to be a lady and ignore this individual without any type of confrontation. (2) How can I get my friend for blaming me about their already broken situation?

Oh and yes She still sends me text and the occasional call or visit? I feel that I have enough characters to write a novel! Help!

Well, well, well…

If you continue to ignore this woman, should she decide she wants to confront you, she will be the one looking like the ass. Keep it grown and classy. Your friend is delusional. I’m not sure you can get her to stop blaming you. She’s got to realize that she’s brought this situation on herself. If you have a friend that you are attracted to and can’t handle the attraction, then it is your responsibility to take yourself out of the situation. Why put yourself in a position where you could really mess up your relationship because your will was weak? The easiest way to keep yourself out of these predicaments is to avoid them. You’re single!! While you were aware of her situation, you have no obligation to her girlfriend, she does. It is her obligation to keep their relationship safe and if that means keeping her distance from you, then that’s what she should have done. If she doesn’t already know that, I’m not sure you are going to be able to convince her otherwise. Now, it may be time for you to take control of the situation. You may have to be the one to put the distance between the two of you to keep your life as drama free as possible. Someone has to be the grown up and think with their minds and not their hormones.