Lifeless

Hello!!! I love your blogs… && I must say my gf && I have been having numerous amounts of ups & downs lately… But the LOVE for one another is DEEP… STRONG… REAL… && TRUE… its just I need deeper insight… So here it goes… Social networking became a problem for her… So I stopped using Twitter.. Bc she is a lil jealous hearted… I even temporarily deactivated my facebook.page… But she still gets on Twitter.. Sometimes facebook… If I want to go hang with my bestfriend she gets jealous… I don’t mind when she spends time with her friends… I understand. You know??? We live in louisiana && I plan on moving to virginia in july && her actions lately are quite misleading… She don’t try to see me that much anymore && her conversation with me is kind of blunt… Lifeless… But I believe she’s trying to prepare herself for this long distance thing… But I want to show her that I care… && that her actions feelins mean the most to me… Help…

Oh boi! I have a lot to say about this one…

There is a certain level of reciprocity that is expected in a relationship. She asked you to stop tweeting and fb’ing. You did it without asking her to stop. Since you mentioned she didn’t, I’ll assume a part of you expected her to and that part was disappointed.

Now, let me backtrack. You agreed to her request because…? You wanted to make her happy? You wanted to make her feel secure? You did it and she wasn’t any more happy or anymore secure because then she found something else to focus on. Your friend.

I have to ask, why doesn’t she want to share you with the world? Do you have a history of infidelity? Do girls drop their panties as soon as you enter the room? Why doesn’t she trust you to make the right choices?

You want to make her happy. You love her. I get it, but if you give up the things that make you happy, fb’ing, tweeting, hanging out with friends, how long will it be before you start to resent her?

You’re going to be in a long distance relationship soon. Things are only going to get harder. She may be preparing herself for the distance…But the relationship won’t last if only one of you want it to…

Instead of asking me for help, you should be asking her to help you make your relationship work. If she wants it to she has to give a little and acknowledge your efforts. Of course, I only know one side of this story, so my opinion is a bit biased. From my view, it seems as though you’re the only one putting forth effort, you’re the only one compromising, you’re the only one holding on. Why?