To Those Who Wait
I have been guilty of rushing in. I’m a romantic. Even as a kid, I loved a good Harlequin romance. I believe in happily-ever-afters. I believe in forever. Despite my experiences, I’ve always had faith.
I am impatient. That’s why I rush things. Delayed gratification? Hell no. Give it to me now and we’ll slow down later. It’s always been my approach. You know what they say about insanity? Well, call me crazy.
Sugar is impatient too. We feed into each others’ impatience to the point where He has had to step in and force us to slow down. He put up these huge speed bumps that could have either caused us to turn around or slow down. We chose to slow down.
As a continuation of my last post, we waited 300 days before we ever saw each other. Yep. That’s practically a year.
There is a bit of build up and expectations, dare I say pressure that comes along with a first meeting.
In everyday life, you meet someone, talk on the phone a few times and you hang out. You spend the majority of your “getting to know each other” in person. That’s everyday life…
But when you do the online thing, those few phone conversations stretch into hundreds. You learn each other in every way, but physically.
You know what they like to eat, what makes them sad, and what they wear to bed. You learn what scares them, who their best friends are and what gets them tipsy…
You learn what you can about them in the time you spend before you meet them and then, pow, it’s time to put all that you’ve learned to use. It’s time to meet.
Oh the pressure!
What if I had romanticized this whole thing and we really weren’t compatible?
I wanted to believe that the bond that we’d formed in the last 300 days was real. That it was strong. That my knowledge of her and our knowledge of each other would would translate into the reality of our lives…
And it did.
Maybe good things really do come to those who wait…
Billie Simone and Alix B Golden
I’m dying here! Y’all are so damn cute together, but I knew that! You gonna make me wander out in the desert for some damn phone signal!
I thought you’d get a kick out of the picture…
I love you!
what a beautiful post… [blush]
And I love you!
happiness looks so beautiful on you.
Thanks, J…
I absolutely love this post and the picture is definitely the icing on the cake. Super happy for the two of you and I am officially expecting a wedding invitation!
I’ll get your address from my brudder…
Woooo hoooooo! love this pic!
Alix:
In everyday life, you meet someone, talk on the phone a few times and you hang out. You spend the majority of your “getting to know each other” in person. That’s everyday life…
But when you do the online thing, those few phone conversations stretch into hundreds. You learn each other in every way, but physically.
You know what they like to eat, what makes them sad, and what they wear to bed. You learn what scares them, who their best friends are and what gets them tipsy…
You learn what you can about them in the time you spend before you meet them and then, pow, it’s time to put all that you’ve learned to use. It’s time to meet.
Oh the pressure! [....]
Incredible!!! You hit the ball OUT the park with this one and you spelled out it ALL out BEAUTIFULLY!
Until reading your post I was the ONLY one that I know of who uses the approach of waiting MONTHS (9-10 moths on average) before meeting a Lady, face-to-face (someone I’ve been talking with on the phone that I initially connected with online) who SEEMS to be a REAL *gem.*
This kind of *connection* goes way BEYOND the physical. It’s deeper and so much more meaningful.
Congrats to you and your mate for being so patient and Thank You for sharing your story!
It wasn’t planned for us to wait that long. At least it was never MY plan. I can’t speak for her…