I’m a lesbian
I was having this conversation with a co-worker about her life. She described what her life was like growing up in India and having her marriage arranged. She joked that her biggest sticking point with her parents was that her future husband needed to be someone that would not stay in India. She was adamant that she would never return there to live. When I asked why, she said she didn’t fit in. She described an Indian woman as being submissive and this woman is anything, but submissive. She’s a firecracker! I find it quite funny that she refers to 2 other employees as her girlfriend and boyfriend. The funny part is that they are a male and female respectively.
At our last company gathering, she and I found ourselves isolated from the other girls while they discussed things like wedding dresses and celebrity wedding and such. We laughed at how we were both more comfortable being around men versus women. She remarked that the hormone level in the company was now off since a lot of the new hires have been women. Then she says, “If I’m ever reincarnated, I want to come back as a lesbian.”
I didn’t ask her why. You know there are women that adapt the lesbian title for reasons that have nothing to do with their attraction to women. Sometimes it has more to do with their distaste of men.
I’m a lesbian because penis, balls don’t do it for me. That’s the obvious, right? More importantly, I have found it very difficult to form emotional ties to men. I might enjoy hanging out with one, but I’m not going to bond with them in a serious way. I find it very difficult to care about a man’s feelings…Hence my past of cheating on every boyfriend I’ve ever had. I’ve never cheated on a woman simply because I care way too much about how my actions may effect them. Their emotions are directly tied to mine. It never happened that way when I dated men.
So I’m curious, why do you call yourself a lesbian?
You know there are women that adapt the lesbian title for reasons that have nothing to do with their attraction to women. Sometimes it has more to do with their distaste of men.
Really?
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Really?! Now them calling themselves a lesbian may not be right by our own personal definition, but who’s gonna stop them?
I call myself a lesbian because, similar to you, I don’t have strong emotional bonds with men. My closest guy friends have been gay, in the past and currently – assuming I was making any guy friends to begin with. I also don’t particularly get along with men, and strongly prefer the company of women to the point where I went to a single sex school (it ended up not being a fit for cultural reasons later on).
I also, genuinely, like women. While I do tend to admire men, specifically those with chiseled bodies or who are dashing, it’s mostly non-sexual. I just really appreciate the male form in a sexual capacity – if that makes sense! Haha. Like on the cover of those magazines. It just brings to mind how men are highlighted, and what is perceived as most attractive on a man vs a woman.
I guess for me, it’s just something that IS. :3
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i’ve never really sat down with myself and said “i am a lesbian because…”
a lot of people think you’re a lesbian because you hate men. on the contrary… i love men. my father, uncles, brothers, men in my life and my circle. LOVE THEM ALL. however in an intimate setting i have never been… all there.
so yeah… i guess… i’m a lesbian too!!
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I’m not a lesbian but I have discovered over the past year that I like women. I even discovered I like the taste of them the feel and ever since then I find myself wanting them more than penis balls etc. but I’ve not ventured to have another experience because I’m not a lesbian but if I were it’d be because there is a completing sensation of being with a woman that I haven’t experienced with a man.
First off, I don’t call myself a lesbian, because that word has always made me cringe — I relate much more to the in-yo-face DYKE. But none of it has anything to do with my feelings, or lack of, for men. I don’t love dogs just because cats don’t bond emotionally, I love dogs because I LOVE THE FUCK OUT OF DOGS and can’t help myself.
I got nothing against men, and have some very close men friends who listen and get it. But I LOVE THE FUCK OUT OF WOMEN and can’t help myself. Nor would I want to!
You know there are women that adapt the lesbian title for reasons that have nothing to do with their attraction to women. Sometimes it has more to do with their distaste of men.
I actually understand this to some extent. I can’t relate to it, and I can understand if lesbians take exception to a “straight” woman claiming the title, but I do get it. Now don’t ask me to expound on my tenuous comprehension, because it is just that: tenuous.
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Great post
I’m a lesbian because I have been looking at females in a sexual way since I was ten. I’m a lesbian because I can get emotionally close to a woman in a way I can’t a man. I’m a lesbian because when I tried dating men I found that their shoulders are too broad, they’re too hairy, they aren’t soft, and they don’t have that curve in their backs, that cinch in their waists. (They have weird nipples too!) After some pondering, I realized that I’m a lesbian because, if I put together all the things I don’t like about men, I come out with a woman every time. A soft, curvy, sensual woman. And there’s just no arguing with that!
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There are about six billion questions I would just LOVE to ask y’all about this! As a bi guy, you’d probably think I’d be all into men… but I’m not. Yep, okay to hang out and drink beer with or whatever but the only thing that really interests me is the thing y’all don’t like about us! I think I don’t “bond” with men like that because, being a guy, I know how we think and behave and, honestly, it’s no wonder why even straight women ain’t all that fond of us. Just reading what you’ve said about us gave me chills because it gives me a chance to look at us through your eyes – and it’s telling.
I’ve had men ask me why their woman has “gone over to the other side” and some of your comments are quite telling in this… but what I usually tell them that when it comes to intimacy, sensuality, and getting the bizness handled, well, women just do it better than we do and mostly because we lack the innate to be emotional on the levels women can be and need to feel from someone. I do have to ask one question, if I can – and please, don’t hurt me, okay?
If you don’t like dick, why do you use dick-shaped toys? My ex, who’s bi, gave me her version years ago but, because she’s bi, she’s biased. So, since Alix invited me to comment, well, here I am and I get a chance to have real live lesbians answer this question for me, if you’re of a mind do.
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Why toys and not penises?… I mean to spice it up.. having orifices filled doesnt really mean you want any of that other jazz.. or shall i say jizz. I hate the feeling of a penis against my leg or having to stroke it with my hand.. My toy is there for one job only and even that I don’t want all the time. I don’t have to engage with the toy in any meaningful way or care, cause I don’t and if it’s not getting the job done.. i can throw it on the floor and try other things LOL and its not hairy and doesn’t grunt and ick.. LOL all that
Hope that answered your question from my humble perspective.
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I am a lesbian because I am sexually attracted to women. I bond with women and in some ways as you stated I’m emotionally connected to the women I date. I have no desire to have a man in my bed. But I do not hate men. I hang out with more men than I do women. But as you stated ‘penis and balls’ just don’t do it for me.
I didn’t know I was a lesbian until I fell in love with a woman. ALL of my friends knew.. but I was oblivious. I like boys. I think they are cute. Sexual organs in general don’t really do it for me in a way a lot of people talk about, but a penis was never getting any play.I gave some of the most lackluster han.djobs in my day.
Either way, I realize it all came down to emotional connection. I know guys.. and I have some male friends, but generally, I prefer the company of women… and I care much more about women than I do the men in my life. and while I would break up with a dude over a missed phone call… I love working out all kinds of crazy for my girlfriend.
It’s an interesting vibe.. but I find that my best friends are still straight women.. and as I get more gay friends.. it adds up to mo’ drama.