She Said It #9

Ellen DeGeneres:

Dan: ‘Ah, well, I hope this didn’t have anything to do with me.’
Ellen: ‘No, not unless you played Cat Woman in Batman’

#2 – Something I feel strongly about…

I feel strongly about my faith.

It’s not something I bring up a lot here, but my relationship with God is important to me. It’s not perfect. I’m not perfect, but he accepts me as I am.

I count on him to bring me peace. I pray for that more than anything else. When I feel myself starting to get stressed, I turn to him. He brings a calm to my life that I know that I can’t achieve on my own.

I recognize Him in everything I do… In everything I don’t do. I thank Him regularly for all that he does and continues to do.

MMM Vol 6: Salt-N-Pepa – Push It

I think I was in the fifth grade when this song came out. The first time I heard anyone singing it, I was in class and two boys were singing… “Oooh, baby, baby…” My prissy do gooder ass was repulsed! These boys were not only my classmates, but they went to my church. What would their mothers say?! I had my ears turned up to hear the whole song and when I did, I blushed, but fell in love with the song. I felt naughty and I loved it.

It wasn’t until I told Sugar this story that I actually read the lyrics and realized this song is not about sex!

Ok, you may stop laughing now.

#1 – 5 Ways to Win My Heart

Please see the full challenge list here.

1- Feed me. The saying the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach applies to women too. I am a sucker for a woman that not only knows how to cook, but is willing to cook. Despite my small stature, I like love food.

2- Be creative. I’ve got a thing for the artist, but that doesn’t mean that you’ve got to write/paint/perform. You should be creative, in some way, and do something to express yourself creatively.

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She Said It #8

Cristina Marrero:

So, let me get this straight– You want me to stop being a lesbian and being attracted to women because it is a ‘sin’? Last time I checked, when you lie you are sinning. Sure, I could tell you I am no longer a lesbian or that I am no longer attracted to women and am straight, or I could even tell you the moon is made of cheese. I could tell you many things, but the moon will still not be made of cheese, and I will still not be attracted to men. I could tell you a lie in order to placate you, but isn’t the truth supposed to set me free? I choose truth over lies any day of the week.

She Said It #7

Dawn French:

I am not, I repeat, NOT a lesbian – even though I’d like to be one when I grow up.

She Said It #6

Anonymous:

A woman goes to the gynecologist, and upon examination, the doctor says, ‘Why, it’s immaculate in here! What do you do to keep yourself so hygienic?’ The woman responds, ‘I have a woman in twice a week.’

Sex Without Love

Sex ain’t better than love. Trey said it. He wasn’t the first to say it, but I’ll bet he’ll make the most profit from it… And I’m tired of hearing it.

It did lead me to ask a few questions, is he implying that someone shouldn’t have sex if they aren’t in love? Continue Reading →

She Said It #5

Joann Brigden:

Men often say, ‘Women! Who could ever understand them?’ Don’t ask a lesbian for the answer. All you’ll get is a sympathetic nod.

Not a Civil Right Project

I’ve always lumped the challenges of racial equality in the same stack of injustices with gay inequality. Everyone just wants the same rights to live like everyone else, right?

My views today are a bit different than they were in the past.

They aren’t the same. While the goals are the same, the struggle is not.

Segregation most often forced black people into close proximity which strengthen our ties to each other. We lived in black neighborhoods, went to black churches, supported black businesses… While it’s great to believe that we did all of that to provide support to each other, the white people didn’t want us around anyway. We didn’t really have a choice. Continue Reading →

She Said It #4

Judy Carter:

Pronouns make it hard to keep our sexual orientation a secret when our co-workers ask us about our weekend.‘I had a great time with ….THEM.’ Great! Now they don’t think you’re queer- just a big slut!

She Said It #3

Suzanne Westenhoffer:

What’s a bridal shower if you’re gay? It’s the parade of gifts you’ll never get cause you’re homosexual. Come in and take a look at the blender, toaster, silverware you’ll have to buy yourself!!! I hate that. I don’t bring a gift anymore, I take one. I have six cuisinarts. I don’t give a shit… they owe us.

Labels Don’t Matter

I have a secret to share with you… Labels don’t matter.

I’ve written a lot about labels here (please see: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5). What I failed to mention is that none of it makes a difference.

We use labels as a short cut to tell someone who we are. If someone claims to be a femme, then there are things about her that can be assumed. You assume that she likes feminine things, like shopping, make up, purses. If someone says they are a stud, you can assume that they don’t like any of the before mentioned things. Continue Reading →


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